Sex and intimacy are some of the most tender ways we connect with others—and, in many ways, they’re mirrors. They reflect how we give and receive love, how safe we feel being seen, and what we learned early on about closeness, trust, and vulnerability.

I find it genuinely insulting how much sleep humans need. The wellness checklist always starts off reasonable: eat healthy, drink water, exercise, nurture your relationships… but the moment some professional casually tacks on, “Oh, and get an amazing, uninterrupted, eight hours of sleep per night,” I feel my body tense, a reaction I get when I feel the need to defend myself. Did an alien who has never struggled to fall asleep write this list? Can we get some empathy on this one, please? We have endless data and articles reminding us about how important sleep is, but when it comes to realistic ways to actually fall asleep… crickets. Which is ironic, because that sound would probably knock half of us out cold.

Defining Neurodivergence & Neurodiversity

Neurodivergence is a broad term that encapsulates a range of identities such as autism, ADHD, dyslexia, dyscalculia, and other cognitive or sensory differences. We live in a world that is largely designed for neurotypical people, and the needs of people who are neurodivergent are often not considered. Yet neurodivergent people are expected to meet neurotypical standards, which can be the source of a lot of suffering.  

Neurodiversity is a term that reflects the idea that there is no one “normal” or “right” way to think, learn, or process information. Importantly, neurodiversity isn’t only about diagnostic labels; it’s also about rejecting ableist assumptions about what it means to be “functional,” “social,” or “successful.” Diversity in neurological wiring, like diversity in culture, gender, or other forms of identity, is a vital and valuable part of humanity. 

Expectations are woven into our lives from an early age. Some are spoken outright – what it means to succeed, belong, or thrive. Others are unspoken but deeply felt, tied to our identities and shaped by the cultural, societal, and familial worlds we inhabit. From a young age, we may internalize messages about what it means to be “good enough,” “smart enough,” or “acceptable,” often without even realizing it. These messages can influence how we think, act, and feel about ourselves for years to come.

Perfection often feels like the standard we should strive for: a life without mistakes, flaws, or failures. But the pursuit of perfection can be exhausting, isolating, and ultimately unattainable. It’s a standard that keeps us from appreciating the growth, connection, and creativity that come from being imperfectly human.

Embracing imperfection means shifting how we see ourselves and our experiences. Instead of viewing flaws as failures, we can recognize them as opportunities. It’s about letting go of the pressure to have it all together and finding strength in vulnerability and authenticity.

When someone we care about is struggling, we usually know how to respond: with patience, encouragement, and understanding. But when it’s us facing a challenge, many of us default to

self-criticism, judgment, or pressure. Self-compassion is the practice of treating yourself with the same kindness and care you would offer a friend, and it can gently transform the way we cope with life’s difficulties.

Let’s name something that no one wants to talk about: being a stepparent can be really, really

hard. Beautiful, yes. Meaningful? Absolutely. But also heavy in ways that people don’t prepare

you for—especially if you’re someone who showed up with an open heart, ready to love kids

who weren’t born to you, and being met with different forms of resistance.

You’re not broken for finding it difficult. You’re not failing because it’s not all falling into place.

What you're doing is messy and brave and often invisible.

Let’s sit with that for a minute.

When we think of meditation, we often envision complete stillness—eyes closed, legs crossed, and minds emptied of thought. But this perspective overlooks a vital truth: meditation isn’t about “just doing nothing”. It’s about doing one thing with full presence. For those who find traditional seated meditation difficult or uninspiring, active meditation offers a dynamic and equally effective alternative. By engaging the body and the senses, these practices ground us in the present moment—without requiring us to sit still.

In any close relationship, emotions run the show, whether we realize it or not. Emotions shape how we interpret our partner's actions, how we respond to conflict, and how we build intimacy. Yet, many of us were never taught how to identify our emotions, let alone share them in a way that brings us closer to the people we love.

As a psychologist, I’ve witnessed how psychedelic experiences can be profound catalysts for insight, healing, and change. But the true transformation begins after the journey, during a process called psychedelic integration. 

Drawing from Dr. Ryan Westrum’s The Psychedelic Integration Handbook, I want to share a framework that can support you in making meaning of your experience in grounded, and practical ways. 

In today’s fast-paced world, even the closest couples can struggle to maintain a deep emotional and physical connection. Between work, obligations, digital distractions, and daily stress, intimacy often becomes an afterthought rather than a priority. But what if one of the most powerful tools for rekindling that spark doesn’t require gifts or grand gestures—just stillness and presence?

Enter: couple’s meditation.

This shared practice is more than just sitting quietly side by side. It’s a powerful way to nurture trust, emotional vulnerability, physical closeness, and spiritual connection—all essential components of lasting intimacy.

In recent years, the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model (often called “parts work”) has gained widespread recognition as an effective and non-judgmental approach to healing complex trauma. IFS offers a respectful and intuitive framework for understanding the human psyche — one that helps people access deep, embodied healing.