In recent years, the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model (often called “parts work”) has gained widespread recognition as an effective and non-judgmental approach to healing complex trauma. IFS offers a respectful and intuitive framework for understanding the human psyche — one that helps people access deep, embodied healing.

"The most important step a [person] can take. It’s not the first one, is it? It’s the next one. Always the next step."
— Brandon Sanderson, Oathbringer

As a therapist—and a fan of reading and fantasy — I often find inspiration in unexpected places. One of my favorite authors, Brandon Sanderson, wrote those words in Oathbringer, and they’ve stuck with me ever since. When life feels overwhelming, the most powerful thing we can do isn’t to figure everything out at once—it’s simply to take the next step.

That’s exactly where SMART goals come in.

Whether you're trying to build better habits, reduce stress, or gain clarity around your next move, SMART goals can help turn vague intentions into practical steps. This framework isn’t just for therapy or work—it’s for anyone who wants to make meaningful progress in everyday life.

What Are SMART Goals?

SMART is an acronym that stands for:

• S – Specific: Define your goal clearly. What exactly are you trying to do?

• M – Measurable: How will you track your progress?

• A – Achievable: Is this goal realistic for you right now?

• R – Relevant: Does it matter to you? Why now?

• T – Time-bound: When do you want to complete it?

As the days grow longer and nature begins to blossom, many people feel the urge to declutter their homes—a practice known as spring cleaning. But what if the benefits of this seasonal habit go beyond sparkling countertops and organized closets? Research and anecdotal evidence alike suggest that spring cleaning can have powerful effects on our mental health.

As I return from maternity leave, I want to explore thoughts about returning to work after having a baby. Whether you're returning to work after 6 weeks, 6 months or 1 year, leaving your baby for work can feel heartbreaking. So much development happens in the first 3 years of a child's life, and being away from them may inevitably lead to missing some parts of that, which is a challenging truth to swallow.  

Returning to work after maternity leave is one of the most emotionally complex transitions a parent can face. Getting back into the rhythm of a job, while also navigating the powerful pull between career ambitions and the love for a new baby can feel impossible. It is possible to deeply love your job and feel fulfilled by your professional role, and  yet still experience the heart-wrenching separation anxiety of leaving your baby each day. If you find yourself caught between these two worlds, you're not alone.

Here are some thoughts and tips on how to balance the joy of returning to work with the yearning for time with your little one.

Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy has a way of uncovering the parts of us that we may not like very much about ourselves. Maybe it’s the inner critic that feels nonstop, the frustrating self-sabotaging ones that don’t make logical sense, the heightened anxiety, or even the avoidant part that tends to run away. These parts can feel like adversaries, but in the IFS framework, they’re actually looking out for us, trying to protect us in some way.

Here’s the complicated thing: their intentions are good.

Laughter is often seen as a simple reaction to humor, but its impact on the mind goes much deeper. Beyond the initial joy it brings, laughter holds remarkable psychological power that can influence our mental well-being in profound ways.

1. Stress Reduction and Relaxation

When we laugh, our body releases endorphins, the brain’s natural feel-good chemicals. These endorphins help lower stress levels, reduce anxiety, and elevate mood. Laughter acts as an instant stress reliever by decreasing the production of stress hormones like cortisol. In moments of laughter, we can experience a temporary escape from life's pressures, creating a sense of calm and peace.

2. Strengthening Social Bonds

Laughter is a universal language that transcends cultural boundaries. It fosters connection between people, breaking down social barriers and building trust. When we laugh with others, we share a moment of vulnerability, making us feel more bonded. This social connection is vital for mental health, as strong relationships are proven to reduce feelings of loneliness and depression.

3. Cognitive Benefits

Laughter isn't just a reaction—it's a cognitive exercise. When we laugh, the brain is actively engaged, improving both mental sharpness and creativity. It stimulates brain regions responsible for memory, learning, and problem-solving. A good laugh can be a mental reset, promoting clearer thinking and fostering a more positive outlook.

4. Coping Mechanism

Life often brings challenges, but laughter can be a powerful coping mechanism. It helps people face difficult situations with a lighter perspective, providing emotional resilience. Humor has been shown to reduce pain perception, making it easier to handle physical or emotional discomfort. In this way, laughter allows us to face adversity without losing our sense of hope or joy.

In essence, laughter is far more than a simple reaction to something funny. It’s a psychological tool that promotes healing, connection, and resilience. So, the next time you hear a good joke or share a lighthearted moment, remember: laughter isn’t just fun—it’s an essential part of maintaining your mental well-being.

Dating can be an exciting journey filled with new connections, learning experiences, and personal growth. But before you jump into the dating pool, it's essential to take a moment to reflect on whether or not you're truly ready. The idea of "readiness" goes beyond simply feeling lonely or wanting to meet someone new. It involves understanding your emotional health, personal goals, and your ability to engage in a healthy, fulfilling relationship.

As the days stretch longer and the cold grip of winter releases its hold, spring ushers in a time of renewal—not just in nature, but within ourselves. Much like the plants around us, we too experience a cycle of pruning and blooming, both psychologically and physiologically. This seasonal transition offers the perfect opportunity for personal growth, shedding old habits, and blossoming into a refreshed version of ourselves.

The elusive “spark.” That moment when two people’s eyes meet across a crowded room — instant chemistry. Is it love at first sight? Or something else…?

As much as I think we would all love to believe that our soulmate is somewhere out there (we just haven’t made eye contact with them yet), the reality is a little less enticing. That sensation of instant chemistry or the “spark” can be misleading and is not the best indicator to use when deciding whether to continue seeing someone.

This idea of an instant, electrifying connection has seeped into our collective understanding of what love should feel like. But is the “spark” really the best indicator of a potential lifelong partner? Or is it just a romanticized myth that can lead us astray?

In the hustle and bustle of modern life, finding effective ways to support our mental health is essential. While traditional psychotherapy offers invaluable tools for self-reflection and emotional healing, nature provides a unique and deeply restorative avenue for well-being. One such natural remedy, accessible to many, is gardening. Beyond its obvious physical benefits, gardening can be a powerful tool for enhancing mental health, mindfulness, and emotional resilience.

Science has historically viewed our brains and our digestive systems as being separate entities, with one controlling our thoughts and emotions, and the other managing digestion. Within recent years, new research has revealed that our brains and our guts are deeply and intricately connected in ways that impact both our mental and physical health. This connection, known as the brain-gut axis, is a complex communication network that enables continuous signaling between the central nervous system (CNS) and the gastrointestinal system. This bidirectional pathway plays a crucial role in regulating mood, stress response, and even cognitive function, while also influencing digestive health. Imbalances in either system can lead to a cascade of effects, contributing to disorders ranging from gastrointestinal dysfunction to anxiety and depression. In this post, we’ll explore the science behind the brain-gut connection and examine how maintaining gut health may offer a holistic approach to enhancing overall well-being.

In recent years, it’s become increasingly common for people to find themselves navigating the dating scene in their 30s. Whether they’re newly single after a breakup or divorce, or simply haven't yet met the right person, more people than ever are exploring love and connection later than previous generations. While this shift is encouraging in many ways, it also brings unique challenges—especially when it comes to online dating, which has become the go-to platform for many singles.