Most of us are taught that healthy relationships are built on communication, such as using the right words, explaining ourselves clearly, and resolving conflict through conversation. However, while words do matter, they are often not where connection begins. Connection begins in the body with our nervous system. Our nervous system is listening first before meaning is made, intentions are interpreted, or logic is accessed. Your body is trying to answer the question: Am I safe here?

And the answer to that question does not just come from words, it comes from consistency of another person meeting you where you are at in the moment. This is where co-regulation comes in.

Why Co-Regulation Matters in Relationships: The Power of Shared Silence

Most of us are taught that healthy relationships are built on communication, such as using the right words, explaining ourselves clearly, and resolving conflict through conversation. However, while words do matter, they are often not where connection begins. Connection begins in the body with our nervous system. Our nervous system is listening first before meaning is made, intentions are interpreted, or logic is accessed. Your body is trying to answer the question: Am I safe here?

And the answer to that question does not just come from words, it comes from consistency of another person meeting you where you are at in the moment. This is where co-regulation comes in.